Bearnamic Duo ~ Rob & Alan!

Hi Rob and Alan, how did you guys meet?

“We were both in long-term relationships, which were holding on by threads. He was in a 13 year relationship, which had a 3rd lover for the last 7 years. I was in an 8 1/2 year relationship, which really never should have been. One day, we discovered our ex’s were online flirting and attempting to meet, so we agreed to all 4 meet up and see where things went. To make a long story short and leave out the XXX-rated details, Alan and I knew at first sight we were meant for one another. As for the others, not so much!”

How long have you been together?

“August 10, 2014 will be out 13 year anniversary. We were married last September 14th atop the Space Needle in Seattle, WA as soon as the government announced recognition of all same sex married couples from states which allow it, regardless their home state’s stance. Our decision to wed was naturally because we are madly in love, but had a lot to do with my recent terminal diagnosis of Cardiomyopathy and Congestive Heart Failure. I now have an implanted cardiac device, earning myself the nickname of ‘The Bionic Bear.”

Was it love at first sight or did it take a few dates?

“Indeed, it was love at first sight for both of us. I am quite an aggressive man when I see something I want and Alan didn’t stand a chance against my charms.”

If you are cohabiting, how long did you date before you lived together?

“At first, we moved into delegate bedrooms within our perspective homes. That didn’t work out so well and caused a lot of heartache for all, so we decided to move in together within 3 months of falling in love.”

What is it about your mate that attracted you so much?

“I was most attracted to his intelligence, independence and overall beauty. He was a man of flaws, but every one seemed hypnotic to me.”

Do you have common interests?

“There are very few interests we don’t share, actually! We have similar taste in home renovations, style, decor, food, music, men, etc.!”

Do you each have an interest that the other has none in?

“I am a Dominant Sir, into a full gamut of kinks. While Alan enjoys this facet of me, he doesn’t get into it himself. I am covered in tattoos and he has none. He prefers to blend in, where I always stand out. They say opposites attract, and we are the true living example of this theory.”

What’s the secret to your successful relationship?

“Complete honest and open dialog, no matter the topic not the time of day. We discuss everything we do: before, during and afterwards to ensure we are both on the same page and have each other as our main focus.”

Any advice for a dating couple?

“Make memories outside of the circuit scene. Relationships are built and nurtured far away from the dance floor and laser lights. Always put your partners feelings above anyone else, yet never allow your partner to hold you back from being yourself.”