Meet Woofy Beefcake John!

Beefcake John Hollier

Hi John,
What’s your idea of a perfect date?

“Dinner, long conversations to get to know the person, and maybe ice cream after dinner to talk more. I do like to kiss on a first date. It will let me know a lot about that person are if we’re going to be compatible to go on another date.”

What does the term “Bear” mean to you?

“Men who are furry, or rugged or handsome or skinny or ugly – there are so many types of bears. I like genuine men.”

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How would you describe your personal interior design style?

“I tend to be very contemporary in my tastes.”

What kind of music do you listen to?

“I love most music: Country, rap, R&B, jazz but mostly find myself bouncing around to dance music but have no favorite one.”

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Location: Atlanta, Ga.

Height: 5’9

Hair: Brown

Eyes: Hazel

Sign: Virgo

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Gym routine: “I’ve worked out for the past 3 years pretty hard trying to change my body every time I lift. My routine is simple. Monday-chest, Tuesday-arms, Wed-legs, Thursday-back Friday-shoulders. I take off Saturday and Sunday unless I miss a day during week. I do one body part a day cause I can solely focus on just that body part trying to do 7 to 8 different exercise and 4 sets of 15 lifting heavier ever set.”

Occupation: “Bartender at Woofs Sports Bar full time and soon to be full time a Barber student starting in the new year.”

Hobbies: “Gym, hiking, anything outdoors – love to travel and the beach is always fun. Photography is a passion I enjoy as well. And my French Bulldog – being a dad to him is great.”

Guilty Pleasure Snack: “LOVE Peanut butter and pancakes.”

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TV Faves: “I rarely watch TV but when I do I
really enjoy THE VOICE.”

Last good movie you saw: “I hate movies, very A.D.D. here.”

Turn Ons: “Handsome, genuine, authentic men who are attractive more on the inside than outside.”

Turn Offs: “Guys who are arrogant, cunty, rude, or dishonest. I treat everyone with respect, because you don’t know what the other person has been through – why treat them like shit?”

Personal Statement: “I have been sober for 2 1/2 years now I support AA.”

Beefcake John Hollier

Photos by David Dudar: Manshots by Dave

The Sculptural Art of Gene Dodak

Sometimes the sculptor is a work of art himself. Case in point is Artist Gene Dodak from Palm Springs. We invite you to look past Gene’s incredible body to view his body of incredible work. We are fascinated by Gene’s clay “Totems” inspired by nature and aquatic life, as well as his Mid-Century inspired lamps and vessels.

Artist Gene Dodak

Gene at work in his studio.
Gene at work in his studio.

After receiving his BFA in Sculpture, Ceramics and Design from Central Michigan University, Gene worked as a window designer at Neiman Marcus in San Francisco and eventually became the Visual manager for the Palo Alto store. He started his own company, Strong Environments, a landscape and design business in the Bay Area in 1994. Gene moved to Palm Springs with his husband, Art Strong, in 2004, and went back to his first love of working in clay.

Gene at his Palm Springs home surrounded by his eclectic work of lamps and vessels.
Gene at his Palm Springs home surrounded by his eclectic work of lamps and vessels.
Gene at his Palm Springs Studio
Gene at the Silica Studio in Palm Springs Studio

Working with and being influenced by Mid-Century artist Paul Bellardo, Gene’s work has become more varied in the last few years, creating modern lamps, vases, and other sculptures. His current interests are slab, wheel-thrown, altered and hand built sculptures.

Gene's Totem sculptures can be used outdoors as well as in.  These Totems are wired to light up at night for dramatic effect.
Gene’s Totem sculptures can be used outdoors as well as in. These Totems are wired to light up at night for dramatic effect.

It was Gene’s Totem sculptures that caught the attention of the Artists Council Exhibition in Palm Springs. It is an annual juried exhibition shown in the Jorgensen Gallery and Marks Graphics Center during the fall of each year. Gene’s work was part of 47 chosen out of over 400 entries.

The Sculptor as sculpture.
The Sculptor as sculpture.

Artist Gene Dodak

Vessels by Gene Dodak
Vessels by Gene Dodak

Gene’s work is represented by Woodman/Shimko Gallery in Palm Springs. Gene’s work is available for residential and commercial commissions.

Meet Woofy CubCake Oliver “Ace” Davis!

CubCake Ace Davis

Hi Ace,
What does the term “Bear” mean to you?

“I’ve actually had a lot of discussions about this. I am a straight transgender man and I do not identify as a bear. However I do label myself as a pup. People seem to get very offended by this because they say that only gay men can claim that along with bear, cub, wolf, ect. But I disagree with that. I think a bear is someone who, regardless of sexual orientation, is of large stature, not necessarily tall, with tons of body hair, and is a kind person.”

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What’s your idea of a perfect date?

“A perfect date to me would be going on a hike in the Appalachian mountains and watching the sunrise while eating a breakfast we packed.”

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How would you describe your personal interior design style?

“I would say lack there of. I don’t really have a style. If I had to choose one I would say rustic minimalist.”

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What kind of music do you listen to?

“I love country, blue grass, folk, and indie. My favorite band is called Listener. It’s spoken words to music.”

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Location: Maryland

Height: 5’8

Hair: Brown

Eyes: Blue/ Gray/ Green

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Sign: Aquarius

Fitness Routine: I do Crossfit and I add weight lifting in where I see fit. I typically workout 4-5 days a week.

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Occupation: Fishmonger

Hobbies: Photography, exploring abandoned buildings, and working out.

Guilty Pleasure Snack: CHEESECAKE!

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TV Faves: American Horror Story and The Walking Dead.

Last good movie you saw: The Conjuring. It wasn’t as scary as I was expecting but it was definitely a good movie.

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Currently Reading: I am about to purchase and begin reading Hung Jury.

Turn Ons: Big butts, thick thighs, good hygiene, long hair, my own stink, and a pretty face.

Turn Offs: Being bitten, and pain aside from scratches, dirty hands, certain smells, and mean people.

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Personal Statement: Hi, I’m Oliver, and I am asking for help. It’s not easy to talk about, but here goes.
I am a trans man. For those who don’t know what that is, I was assigned female at birth, but always internally felt like a man. Since I’ve medically transitioned to male I’m happier and more fulfilled. Every trans person takes their own path. No two paths are alike. For me, to feel best about myself in my body I need to take one more step on my path that requires additional surgery. So, I’m reaching out to anyone with a few extra bucks to spare to help me out. You may or may not know me, but I assure you any contribution, even a small one, will honestly mean I will be closer to being comfortable in my own skin. Nothing is more important than that, whether you’re trans or not. If you can help, you have my deepest gratitude. If you can share this page with others via social media, whether you can contribute or not, you also have my deepest gratitude. Be well, and know that I truly appreciate every penny raised by this personal fund. http://www.gofundme.com/fq1oo0

CubCake Ace Davis

Modern Bear Beefcake ~ Clint from South Carolina

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

Hi Clint,
What does the term “Bear” mean to you?

“When I close my eyes and think of what a bear is, I probably have the same visual image as most people. Visually, bears tend to be beefier guys with facial and body hair as well as a blue collar or hyper-masculine look. But to me, the term bear goes deeper than the visual aspect. I think the bear community as a whole is all about acceptance. I have traveled to many bear events and there are guys of so many shapes and sizes, furry and non-furry, and they all consider themselves bears. Bears, in my opinion, tend to be more accepting of each other, very social in nature, and fun-loving. I always joke that the bear community is always so friendly and accepting because we eat! We eat, we drink, and…well…we do what men do. So being a bear to me is about being who you are, and enjoying each other for who and what we are.”

What’s your idea of a perfect date?

“Honestly, I have had the “perfect date”. I was lucky enough to be with the man of my dreams for 17 years so I have had a million perfect dates. The next man I date/love will be someone who makes me laugh, and that I make laugh too. You know, the you’re laughing so hard you’re wiping tears from your face and can’t breathe kind of laughter. Whether we are at a restaurant, at a bar with friends or just lying on the couch cuddling up together, I want to laugh. The man who makes me laugh will win my heart. Any date with that man will be the perfect date.”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

How would you describe your personal interior design style?

“I am a very simple guy, so my tastes tend to run as such. My favorite room in the house is my den. It has a southwest design with a lot of earth tones. The walls are lined with cowboy hats and southwestern art. Of course that room also has a big screen television and two very comfy couches.”

What kind of music do you listen to?

“My taste in music changes all the time. I can enjoy anything from choral music to hard rock. Most of the music on my ITunes is dance music, with some country thrown in for fun. I love to dance to both. Whatever the sound, words are important to me. I have to know every word to every song. I want to understand the lyrics and what they mean. Understanding the words and lyrics makes it easier when I am singing along.”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

Location: Columbia, South Carolina

Height: 6’1

Hair: Salt and pepper

Eyes: “Most of the time they are blood shot, but I think they are supposed to be blue ”

Sign: “The one with crabs… wait …maybe I should re-write that…”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

Fitness Routine:
“When all the pieces and parts are working, LOL, I am at the gym 4 times a week. I do a very basic exercise routine of upper body/lower body. I try to change my routine every 3-4 weeks. Even if that just means changing from dumbbells to a machine. Anything to break up the exercises to keep my mind interested and my body confused. I also do treadmill two or three times a weeks and once a week I try to play some basketball.”

Occupation: “Human Resources/Corporate Trainer – I hire, train, and fire… (not necessarily in that order).”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

Hobbies: “I love to travel. I try to travel somewhere every month. It’s a big gay world out there, and I want to see it all. My trips don’t have to take me across the world, but somewhere where I can meet new people and experience different things. I admit I am developing a fondness for several European countries though.

Because of my love for music, I like to make dance remixes. A couple times a year I will organize an event at the local bar where I can DJ and share my music. The last party was a lumberjack party.

Finally, I love to bake. I am the type of person that shows they care by baking for people. My momma told me when I was just a little bear-cub, “If you want to keep those bears happy, you’ll need to learn to cook in more than one room of the house”. So I learned to cook, everything else came naturally.”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

Guilty Pleasure Snack: “Well like any bear, I can’t get within a mile of a cupcake without starting to drool. But when I think “guilty pleasure”, I think of things that I love so much I can’t stop myself; my biggest guilty pleasure is Flaming Hot Cheetos. They are crazy addictive! I can sit and eat a whole bag and not think twice. I especially love when my fingers are covered with yummy Cheetos goodness! I will even tear open the bag to make sure I get to the crumbs at the very bottom of the bag.”

TV Faves: “If you were to check my DVR over the past year, you would find True Blood (did not like the ending), Walking Dead, Hot in Cleveland, Tosh.0, Cupcake Wars and Robot Chicken (how’s that for a mix). I also watch a lot of sports as I am a big Kentucky Wildcat fan (Go Big Blue)!”

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Last good movie you saw: “The last movie was Guardians of the Galaxy. It was such a fun, quirky movie. I loved it.”

Turn Ons: “I have a major beard fetish. A nicely trimmed and well defined beard is really hot. Chest fur is also pretty high on my list. Sexy muscle cubs and daddy bears always catch my eye. I like guys who look like they take care of themselves physically, but they can’t be too serious about it. If you’re going to stress over eating a cupcake (or 2…or 3), you’re not the guy for me. Life is too short to not eat cupcakes.”

Turn Offs: “I don’t like people who are arrogant, rude, disrespectful or passive aggressive.”

Personal Statement: “Over the past few years I have learned that life is short. We have to kind and love each other because we don’t know what tomorrow will bring. I also believe we have to take time to laugh and to make each other laugh. If we can laugh together, we can be compassionate with one another; if we can laugh together, we can forgive each other; if we can laugh together, we can LOVE each other. Make someone laugh today.”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

Photos by David Dudar Photography

Beefcake of the Week ~ Erik Byrne

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

Hi Erik,
What’s your idea of a perfect date?

“That’s easy… a day that starts at home having coffee together with our sweet dog on the sofa… then becomes brunch (either just us or with friends)…. a small shopping trip (for big boy toys)…. A good 3 to 4 hours locked away in the playroom…. an afternoon spent at the naked beach…. grab Thai take out on the way home… eat said take out while we’re happily back on the sofa with that wonderful dog. I guess my partner and I don’t really do “date night”. But we LOVE “date day”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

What does the term “Bear” mean to you?

“I’ll say this… I’ve got friends in the bear community that represent each extreme end of the spectrum and everything in between. Some that don’t even necessarily have a “look” that would suggest “Bear”. But they feel it and they feel a part of a community that is familiar to them. This is where I realized that a sense of belonging, no matter how deep or how shallow it might seem to someone else, is really important to those who kinda never really did belong… I’ll say this, I had never noticed anyone “woofing” at me for the first 10 years of my “out” life. Then one day I moved to San Francisco, a couple of bears “woofed” my direction.. and when I “woofed” back… it was ON. And I’m so glad I did.”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

How would you describe your personal interior design style?

“I had worked in the industry as a designer for 12 years before moving into the financial side of the business. I’d like to think that I developed a solid personal style I could stand by…. But really I think I simply acquired a tolerance level for a wide range of styles. I guess what I mean is that I’ll easily find comfort and beauty in almost any space so long as its creator(s) present it with confidence in what it’s supposed to represent…. Except, of course, for anything even slightly resembling “shabby chic”. Shabby Chic is disgusting.”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

What kind of music do you listen to?

“I’m a country boy at heart and country music will always be my go-to. Beyond that, I’ll listed to anything and everything Top 40-ish. Pretty much anything that causes my DJ friends stomachs to turn…”

Location: San Francisco

Height: 5’9″

Hair: “Brown with some “salt” coming in and rapidly receding.”

Eyes: Blue-ish

Sign: Cancer

Erik and partner Scott
Erik and partner Scott. Photo by
Inked Kenny

Fitness Routine:
“I’m THE WORST about the gym. Never liked it, never felt comfortable in one since long ago in junior high school gym class. (insert personal gym locker room story here) But I get up and go as many times a week as I’m able (always before work). But really, if I look at all like I spend any amount of time committed to a rigorous work out… the credit goes to flagging. I flag whenever I have a few free minutes. In the back yard, head phones in, country music blasting, and my many straight neighbors staring at me through their azaleas… looking just a little bit worried.”

Photo by Rey Rey's Photography
Photo by Rey Rey’s Photography

Occupation: “Finance and Business Manager for SF Interior Design firm.”

Hobbies: “White Water Rafting, snowboarding, creating flower arrangements for our home. And, um… can you call Burning Man a “hobby”? Probably not, but I stand by it.”

Guilty Pleasure Snack: JIF Reduced Fat Creamy Peanut Butter and Cinnamon Life Cereal. Try it. I triple. dog. dare. you. And no, I do NOT try to “work it off” at the gym later. Just enjoy it.”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

TV Faves: “I like, and will watch nearly anything I guess…. But my “can’t miss” shows would be The Daily Show, Chelsea Lately, and… The Soup. I refuse to get my news from a network. All the networks are complete dicks in their own way and it’s become boring and sad. I get my real news from the most logical source I can think of… My friends ranting on Facebook.”

Last good movie you saw: “Maleficent.’ Freakin loved it. I’m an unabashed mainstream consumer and this movie delivered.”

Currently Reading: “Listening to the ‘Tales of the City’ audiobooks on my commute each day. I’ve read all the at least twice so this is a completely different experience.”

Photo by David Dudar
Photo by David Dudar

Turn Ons: Body Hair (preferably not trimmed), confidence, experience, bedroom eyes, rough hands, silver daddies, and passion for what you do, knowing when to be a Gentleman and knowing when to be a Swine.”

Turn Offs: “Arrogance, intolerance, overcompensating, ignored insecurities… I guess these are things that we all exhibit in our own way, especially me.”

Personal Statement: “A sweet and wonderful lesbian friend once said to me (upon seeing and talking to me for the first time since growing up a little bit… beard and fur and such) ‘Honey, if you’re gonna be a Bear, then be a Grizzly.’ I believe what she meant was embrace your natural strength and do what you do well. Do it with integrity and love and power. Don’t look back too much and don’t ever look down on anyone else who’s having a rougher time than you are having with something. We all need a little help at one time or another. At least that’s what I believe anyway.”

Beefcake Erik Byrne

Contributing Photographers:
David Dudar
Inked Kenny
Rey Rey

Bearnamic Duo ~ George & Scott of Spathose

Meet our Bearnamic Duo, George and Scott! These two talented designers have melded a successful career and relationship together. We get the scoop from them on how they make it all work…

How did you guys meet?

“It was actually quite romantic, a bit like some sappy, romantic comedy movie… A frosty New England night, as snow drifted deeply with the strong December winds; It glistened like scattered diamonds amid the winter moon’s glow…George’s car was stuck in a snow bank, Scott happened by with his truck and the rest is history!”

How long have you been together?

“We are in our 25th year together! Most of that time (at least 20 years, has been spent working side by side ,day & night, 24/7, 365…well you get the idea!) We are the design team that make up the brand Spathose. Our work transcends the realm of ordinary style by forging fine art with fashion, thus conceiving more than an accessory; we have given rise to organic wearable sculpture with an industrial edge.”

Wearable Sculpture by Spathose

Wearable Sculpture by Spathose

Wearable Sculpture by Spathose

Was it love at first sight or did it take a few dates?

“There was definitely an immediate connection, but we both were a bit cautious in the beginning. After our third date though, we were inseparable!”

George & Scott, circa 1997
George & Scott, circa 1997.

If you are cohabiting, how long did you date before you lived together?

“It didn’t take long at all, within a month and we knew that we wanted to spend as much time with each other as possible. Since that time, we have not spent more than a few days apart! In the beginning, we both had regular jobs but soon realized that we wanted to work together at our own business.”

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What is it about your mate that attracted you so much?

George: “For me the eyes are truly that window into the soul, I looked deeply into his intense eyes and I immediately felt this attachment, I felt safe. Of course, it didn’t hurt that he was brutally good looking with an amazing body!”

George & Scott of Spathose

Scott: “The first time we met, I felt as though time stood still, I was captured in a moment that I never wanted to end. My heart started to race and felt as though it was being gripped by a vice on the verge of exploding… He captivated me is so many ways, his charming smile, adorable rosy cheeks that glistened from the snow, the bluest eyes that melted my heart, but what really clenched it all for me was beyond that physical attraction, it was his wit and ability to make me laugh…”

Do you have common interests?

“Our passion has always centered on the arts in some manner. Our first business together was faux finishing, back when we lived in the Philadelphia area. We also enjoyed home renovations and that quickly turned that into a business. Upon our move to Saint Petersburg FL 11 years ago, we decided to focus entirely on purchasing run down properties in blighted areas to remodel and turn them into income properties. Since the real estate crash, being ever resilient, we had to re-invent ourselves once again. That is how we started our present business and brand, Spathose.

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Do you each have an interest that the other has none in?

“That’s the dilemma of being business and life partners, it’s tricky to be able to have separate lives! This was a struggle early on as our identities were merged into one. We were never thought of as individuals, but as a single entity. Both having strong personalities, we found that challenging to be reduced to this homogenized, collective version of ourselves. Understandably, being part of a brand, it’s essential to promote as a team and since have found that delicate balance to insure our own distinctive personae are not swallowed by the whole!”

What’s the secret to your successful relationship?

“In this internet fueled, new, next, now, built for planned obsolescence era of today, it seems that relationships have become disposable. The famous quote “For anything worth having one must pay the price; and the price is always work, patience, love, self-sacrifice” might have very well been written specifically about human interactions. Not to say that every day has to be a struggle, but be prepared to truly live the word compromise! Something as wonderful and rewarding as a long term relationship is worth the hard work that goes with it! Communication is key! Also Laugh, laugh everyday…there is always love when there is laughter!”

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Any advice for a dating couple?

“Never define your relationship on someone else’s views, values, or morals; it can be destructive.
You are the only one that knows your true feelings.
Create a friendship bond that grows beyond the physicality and the bedroom.
Never try to stagnate the other person from their journey in life.
MOST OF ALL, TRY YOUR BEST TO LISTEN!”

Scott & George, circa 1990
Scott & George, circa 1990.

Links:
Spathose Website
Facebook
Twitter
Instagram

Photo credits:
BWL Photography
Thee Photo Ninja
Rossie Newson Photography
Downtown Carol Photography
Brentwood Photography
Creative Loafing

Beefcake of the Week ~ Michael

Photo by Flaming City Photography
Photo by Flaming City Photography

Hi Michael!
What does the term “Bear” mean to you?

“A fun-loving, huggable, big, hairy guy.”

What’s your idea of a perfect date?

“Heading out on a hike or out on the water for the day, stopping at the farmers market on the way home & cooking a meal together. Enjoying it all underneath the stars.”

Model:  Michael Coates

How would you describe your personal interior design style?

“Modern, natural & minimal. I don’t like a lot of clutter. While I prefer clean lines and a modern aesthetic I love bringing nature inside. Wood accents, plants and natural light are essential.”

What kind of music do you listen to?

“Everything from Fleetwood Mac to Drake. I love discovering new artists and I will forever be a huge Tori Amos fan.”

Model:  Michael Coates

Location: Chicago

Height: 6ft

Hair: Brown

Eyes: Brown

Sign: Pisces

Model Michael Coates

Fitness Routine:
“I am an avid Crossfitter. It may not be everyone’s thing but it certainly works for me. I come from an endurance background, so incorporating weightlifting is essential if I want to bulk up. I try to go to Crossfit least 5-7 times a week. I also enjoy swimming, biking, hiking and skiing when I can.”

Occupation: “I work as an Art Director and Photographer.”

Hobbies: “Cooking, Crossfit, outdoors, music, painting/drawing, travel, photography.”

Model Michael Coates

Guilty Pleasure Snack: Cheese-It’s

TV Faves: “Game of Thrones, Strangers with Candy, I love Lucy, Six Feet Under, Golden Girls.”

Last good movie you saw: “The Normal Heart’ on HBO. Incredibly well done & poignant film.”

Currently Reading: “The Maze Runner”

Model Michael Coates

Turn Ons: “Blue eyes, strong hands, creativity, spontaneity, affectionate guys, confidence and above all someone that makes me laugh.”

Turn Offs: “A negative disposition, bullies, unacceptance within our own community, ignorance and arrogance. “

Personal Statement:
“Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present, and by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future.”
― David Mitchell, Cloud Atlas

Photo by Flaming City Photography
Photo by Flaming City Photography

Underwear Bear Tee is back in stock!

Modeled by Robert Pierce Photo by Rey Rey's Photography
Modeled by Robert Pierce
Photo by Rey Rey’s Photography

Our Underwear Bear Tee is back in stock!
$20 + Shipping from our Modern Bear Store:

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Modeled by Kyle McCann. Photo by Rey Rey’s Photography
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Bearnamic Duo: Meet Ryan & John from Palm Springs!

Ryan and John are one of the most handsome and charming couples in Palm Springs. They also have their own successful real estate business. We caught up with them recently to ask them what makes their relationship so successful…

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How did you guys originally meet?

“We were both in the process of ending a relationship when we met. Neither of us were looking to find love. We were introduced by a mutual friend in San Diego. John was wearing a wife beater with his hat on sideways and he looked at me and said with his charming Southern drawl, “Damn, boy! Will you marry me?” Totally turned on I accepted with hesitation, “Yeah, but let me break up with my boyfriend first.” Two days later I was single again and ready to see what this tough boy was about.”

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How long have you been together?

“We met August 4, 2007. We got married legally July 1, 2013.”

Was it love at first sight or did it take a few dates?

“I really do think it was love at first sight. The moment I met him I had butterflies in my stomach and that was something that I rarely if ever felt with anyone else. With my friends I even referred to him as my future husband the weekend we met.”

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How long did you date before you lived together?

“After many weekend visits to Palm Springs I fell in love with the community out there. About six months after we began dating I made a move to live in Palm Springs full time. The real estate market was in the toilet at this time so I started managing properties with luxury vacation rentals here in the desert. No homes were selling in San Diego so the perfect time for me to make a switch.”

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What is it about your mate that attracted you so much?

“First and foremost I was attracted to John’s morals and values. He was wild at heart but yet also had a good balance between crazy and realistic. He didn’t put up with any bullshit from anyone and still doesn’t. Not even me. He’s good for me.”

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Do you have common interests?

“We have some common interests which is good but were also very very different people. I enjoy the circuit party scene and he absolutely hates it. He loves musicals and I despise them. It really comes down to is that he loves to talk and be heard and he can’t talk with loud music. We both love softball, going to the gym, traveling, home projects and entertaining.”

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What’s the secret to your successful relationship?

“Compromise, patience and honesty. Understanding that no one is perfect, being able to let your ego not get in the way, and putting the person that you’re with above everyone else.”

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Any advice for a dating couple?

If you’re not confident in your relationship don’t try a three-way. If guys are hitting on your man take it as a compliment; don’t be jealous. That’s not attractive. Try to avoid group vacations and travel with your partner alone.”

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John and Ryan can reached through their website at www.JohnAndRyanSell.com