Beefcake of the Week ~ Ray

Hi Ray!

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What’s your idea of a perfect date?
“For me, a perfect date must be uninterrupted bonding time with your boyfriend. It doesn’t matter where you go or what you do. Staying connected, reminding each other why you are a couple, why you both chose each other. Make each other laugh, flirt with each other, kiss, hold hands, comfortable silent pauses of looking at each other, reconfirm with each other that no one else shares what you both have. This pulls you in even closer.
You should do this all the time, but on a date, at that moment, no one else should exist. And the cell phones NEVER come out.”

How would you describe your personal interior design style?
“My home is simple, warm and welcoming with unique pieces. I think each piece should stand on it’s own. With my mild case of ocd, I don’t like having a lot of stuff all over the place. I also have to have art and photo stills hanging. Bare walls will drive me nuts. I have several Frida Kahlo, Tamara de Lempicka and Picasso prints I’ve transferred to canvas and I have framed photos from my friend Johan Jansson. He shot a series of Frida Kahlo inspired pictures that are just beautiful. It’s amazing how art and photos can completely transform a room.”

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What kind of music do you listen to?
“My iTunes grows weekly. I listen to ABBA, Charles Mingus, Jill Scott, Pavaroti, Morrissey, Zero 7 and EVERYTHING in between. I love that music has the power to change your mood, instantly. It sets the tone for any environment you’re in. I love to dance, so when I go out and there’s tribal and vocal house playing (*DJ Paulo*), you can bet my ass will be on a speaker in 5 seconds.”

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Location: Montreal, Canada
Height: 5’ 10”
Hair: Dark dirty blonde
Eyes: Green Hazel
Sign: “Leo – An Italian Leo no doubt.”

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Fitness Routine:
“I’ve been getting into the best shape I’ve ever been. It’s taken a couple years to get to this point with conscious eating, excersise and most importantly, having the proper mind set. Fitness starts in your head. The way I saw myself, in my 40s as a gay man, changed and I started to become comfortable in my own skin.
Once you remove the pressure of wanting to measure up to others, of trying to impress others, of trying to fit into a certain mold, you start to stand strong and can focus on you and then, it all starts to fall into place. That’s what I love about the Bear community. We are all different shapes and sizes.
I’m very blessed to have a body that puts on muscle mass easily. I work 14/16 + hour days, so I have to set timers to remind myself to eat every 3 hours. When I’m off work, I try to go to the gym twice a day, 4 (ish) times a week. Weights in the morning for an hour, then cross fit in the late afternoon or cardio, (bike, swim or whatever I feel like on the day). For weights, I have my trainer design me 3 different work out plans. I work out with him once with each plan, then I follow the plans for 6 weeks, then I go see him again and switch it up. I get bored easily and get quickly distracted, so….and…what was I saying? Anyways.
Ashtanga Yoga is also very important for me. Keeps the body limber.
Meditation is a must. Calms the mind.”

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Occupation: “2nd Assistant Director on American Films. I make sure the Director has everything he needs to shoot the movie, then I help him shoot it.”

Hobbies: “Since the winters in Montreal are so brutal (exasperated sigh), I like to spend most of my summer outdoors. Hiking, mountain biking, rugby, ridding my Harley and hanging with friends. Been traveling lots lately whenever it tickles my fancy. Love cooking and eating. I’m Italian so I can cook like a mother fucker and I can eat forever. I’ve also been collecting pop up books for many years. I have almost every one of Robert Sabuda’s 1st Edition, 1st Print books. And tending to my garden of Italian tomatoes. It’s rather meditative.”

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Guilty Pleasure Snack: “CAKE! Lots of it (I’m a fat girl inside).”

TV Faves: “I don’t watch tv so I try to choose series to watch. Sense8, you have my full attention right now. And all 7 seasons of The Golden Girls of course.”

Last good movie you saw: “I honestly can’t remember and I should considering what I do for work.”

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Currently Reading: “I recently finished reading Kristen Johnston’s memoir, guts. Holy shit!
and now, I’m gonna re-read The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo.”

Turn Ons: “Old fashioned (like me), humble, honest and can make me laugh. A guy who loves to eat. Holding hands while walking. Someone who is confident and stands next to me as an equal. Having each others backs and treating each other like Kings. Finding sweet notes tucked into your coat pocket or gym bag (Ugh, that makes me melt). His smell on the sheets in the morning. Seeing his jock on the floor after a workout and then wearing it. Fur, man smell and tree trunk legs. Did I mention man smell? WOOF!”

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Turn Offs:
“1.Guys who believe in their own hype. IG is just for fun. It’s not a competition and there is no prize in the end.
2.Guys who body shame others. Putting people down because they don’t have the ideal or perfect or most desired body doesn’t make you hotter. It makes you a Cunt and a Basic Bitch. So stay humble.”

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Personal Philosophy :
“The best advise I’ve gotten was from my dad. In 1997. We were having lunch in Milan & he said to me (loosely translated from Italian):
“Renato, IF you have to leave, try to leave that person or that place better than how you found them. This will make you a better man”.
That was a pivotal point of my life. It’s about the time when my journey into Buddhism started. I miss him terribly.”

Modern Bear

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